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Q & A: Why?


Recently, I was chatting with a bunch of people on CollarMe and it seems that it’s a hard-to-understand situation The Boyfriend and I are in, with him being completely vanilla and me so desperately desiring kink in my life. Sometimes, I have to remind myself of the reasons and other times, it’s just what makes sense. So here’s my answer to the question: Why do you stay with him?

That’s an easy question to answer: I love him. He came into my life when I wasn’t looking for it at all, he put up with a lot of shit to get to be with me, and he’s been the best thing that’s ever happened to me (though I think, I’m technically considered a bad mom if I don’t include that the kids are also the best thing that have ever happened to me).

Being that I can be sexually satisfied without kink, even though I desperately crave it, it doesn’t make sense to end a perfectly great relationship just to get that one thing. Plus, there was also a time when I did get it with him and I’d like to believe when we’re at a stage where a spanking won’t wake our young kids up, that I might get it again…

Yeah, it’s not an ideal situation and I spend many hours questioning my reasons for sticking around, but then I look at what we have and what we’ve always had and what we might end up having in the future and it all just looks too good to walk away from.

Just wanted to share that. I love him, pure and simple. It’s been a great 4 years babe!

Author: Valerie Rayne

Valerie Rayne is a wannabe kinkster, blog-a-holic and mom of six ranting about life, love and blogging. She is also the creator of WTMFI Wednesdays, a weekly sex meme arousing discussions on sexuality.

2 thoughts on “Q & A: Why?

  1. Well said. Sometimes life makes choices for us, and the only choice left isn’t really a choice at all.

  2. Pingback: 9 Things The Boyfriend Does That Turn Me On ⋆ Valerie Rayne

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