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Does This Happen To You?!?


You know what bugs me? Not that it bugs me all the time, just that it’s bugging me right now. Every time that I have out-of-this-world, as I call it mind-boggling sex, I spend the next day or a few days afterwards feeling down and out and a little bit like I’m in a funk. I don’t know if other people experience this, but I definitely do and I definitely don’t like it!

I’m always reading about subdrop and how to avoid it and what to do about it. There are tons of articles on the web and I’m no expert in it, so I won’t bore you with what I hypothetically know about it. But from what I’ve read, it’s as if that’s what I experience after that really good sex. The sex that goes down in your relationship history book.

Normally, I just shrug it off as the after-loving-blues and carry on as if it’s nothing, but today’s blues are being relentless. I feel like I have a hangover, that’s more what it feels like. I’m down and out, I’m sorer than normal and I’m in a right bitchy mood for absolutely no reason. It’s like panic-mode-PMS. And it’s making me even more grumpy than I already am, and the fact that I’m grumpy with no logical reason is just making me sad.

And I wish I could figure out what it is that would take me out of this. I know I don’t want cuddles, and I don’t want massages, and I don’t want to get up and move around. I already walked to the store and that definitely did not help with my mood. I know of all the things that I don’t want but I can’t give you one thing that I do want to do. And I despise that!

Does anyone else experience this the day after having sex? Do you find that your mood is different and that you don’t like it? Or do you like the mood change? Or do you notice absolutely no difference the day after?

Author: Valerie Rayne

Valerie Rayne is a wannabe kinkster, blog-a-holic and mom of six ranting about life, love and blogging. She is also the creator of WTMFI Wednesdays, a weekly sex meme arousing discussions on sexuality.

4 thoughts on “Does This Happen To You?!?

  1. It’s hormonal. You’re coming off an endorphine peak. Best move is little endorphin hits to take you down more slowly. In other words, masturbate a few times the days after good sex. It won’t stop you hitting bottom, but the deceleration will be less sudden.

    Also: chocolate.

    • Hmm interesting ideas! Chocolate makes so much sense. I wonder though, if a) this could lead to dependency on orgasm as the only solution to the down and out feeling and b) what if it happens after masturbating? Could you imagine how often you’d have to be masturbating just to bring yourself out of a funk? And while it’s a great to masturbate a whole bunch, I just wonder what kind of behavioral/psychological issues this might contribute to over time.

      But, regardless of all my wondering, I think that I will definitely give both your suggestions a try and see which one might work.

  2. Try 20mg prozac daily.

    • I’m not a fan of Prozac at all really. Firstly, I think for me personally, drugs are not the answer. Especially to an issue like after-loving-blues, which doesn’t last the required 2 weeks of sadness that most doctors will insist upon before prescribing Prozac (and if it’s a doctor who doesn’t require that, they probably don’t care about your health and just care about the Pfizer paycheck…). I also have Prozac down as one of the drugs that I’m not allowed to take because of a previous overdose… I try my hardest not to take many mind altering drugs.

      However, that’s not to say that it isn’t the right option for some people out there. I just don’t think it’s for me. But I appreciate the comment and the suggestion.

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