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Things I’ve Done From the Sexual Bucket List Ideas Post



A very popular post on The Rantings of a Tortured Mind is a post from March 2011 called 100+ Sexual Bucket List Ideas. This post has been viewed over a thousand times and over 315 search terms have brought people to the post. If you haven’t read it yet, you should!

But today, I thought it would be fun for us to share with each other the things that we have already done from the Sexual Bucket List Ideas post. I’ll start!

Ways to Have Sex

I lost my virginity when I was 14 and have had sex with 5 guys. I’ve had many sexual experiences and four of them resulted in pregnancy. The following are the ways that I’ve had sex…

#1 – Have a male, female, male threesome

I’ve had a few of these actually. When I was with Alfie, and before ALL the kids, it was our thing. We attempted a few girl-on-girl threesomes, but I was often way too insecure and jealous for these to go anywhere beyond a quick kiss. I actually really enjoyed the threesome thing, though don’t think that I have a desire to do more of it…

#5 – Have sex with another person while your partner watches
#7 – Have sex with your partner while another person watches

#8 – Have anal sex

I spent a lot of my life longing to be a total anal slut. Alas, it’s just not who I am. I can count all of the times I’ve tried anal sex on one hand, and I can tell you exactly why I disliked it almost every time. There was only one time that I liked it at all, and it wasn’t the actual anal that I liked. I enjoyed the way The Boyfriend was talking to me during it…

#9 – Have very rough sex

Almost every single time we have sex, it turns into rough sex. Even when we both promise it will be gentle…

#10 – Have very gentle sex
#11 – Have sex without foreplay
#12 – Have sex standing up
#14 – Have sex facing away from your partner
#15 – Have sex facing sideways
#16 – Have sex with most of your clothes on

#17 – Have sex with one article of clothing on

Almost every time we have sex, I have at least one article of clothing on. I feel much more confident during sex when I can keep my stomach covered. So it’s normally a shirt that I can pull my boobs out with and that’s it.

#20 – Have extremely loud sex

Every single time we have sex, it’s loud sex. We’ve been working on it, to try and get me to quiet down, but there’s just a point where I can no longer contain it. I have tried so many things, from holding my lips shut, to shoving my face into a pillow and The Boyfriend covering my face with his hands. It just makes me louder…

#22 – Have sex without orgasm
#23 – Have your hair pulled during sex
#25 – Change positions multiple times during sex

Places to Have Sex

When I first started having sex, I was much more adventurous. Now, in my old age, I’m very conventional and choose most often to have sex in bed, where it’s comfortable.

#2 – Masturbate and videotape or webcam it

I’ve done this, but I deleted it the moment I was done. Never showed another person and have never masturbated on live webcam. Though I would like to, one day…

#4 – Have sex in public
#6 – Have sex in a car
#12 – Have sex in the shower
#13 – Have sex on the kitchen counter or table

#15 – Have sex in the woods

I don’t know if you could count it as the woods, but it was a full grouping of trees. Dirty, gross, ant-y – realistically, I don’t want to do this again. In fantasy, over and over!

#18 – Have sex in the snow

I’m a Canadian, what can I say?!? Don’t all Canadians?

#22 – Have cybersex

#23 – Have sex in a church

Okay, so not technically “in” a church, but on the steps outside of the church. I was even wearing a skirt that I had gotten at a church thrift store, and I looked like the skankiest Sunday school teacher in the world!

#25 – Have sex in your parent’s house

Not only did I have sex in my parent’s house, but I got pregnant there. It wasn’t exactly planned that way, but at the time, we lived there…

Equipment to Use

I always wanted a large collection of sex toys. But once I started getting sex toys, they kind of went on the back burner. I seem to turn to sex toys now only when I’m having a hard time reaching an orgasm.

#1 – Find your favorite vibrator

I can’t, of course, be 100% sure that it is my favorite vibrator, since I haven’t tested every single vibrator in the world… But, for right now, I do have a vibrator that is my go-to vibrator. If I’m looking for an orgasm, it’s sure to work!

#2 – Discover a brand new dildo that you love

#7 – Buy Some Lingerie

Because I rock so much, the first and only lingerie I’ve ever bought or had bought for me, was from Wal-Mart… You can see a picture here.

#19 – Buy Bondage Tape

#21 – Use household items as kinky toys

I am a HUGE fan of pervertables. When I can’t justify spending money on my kinks (mainly because I’m the only one interested in it…), pervertables are perfect. My favorites are the canes that open and close the patio blinds and cheese graters!

#24 – Use an unconventional sex toy

The ice dildo! Seriously interesting experience!

So, what have you done from the sexual bucket list ideas? What do you want to add to your own sexual bucket list? Leave a comment and let me know!

Author: Valerie Rayne

Valerie Rayne is a wannabe kinkster, blog-a-holic and mom of six ranting about life, love and blogging. She is also the creator of WTMFI Wednesdays, a weekly sex meme arousing discussions on sexuality.

3 thoughts on “Things I’ve Done From the Sexual Bucket List Ideas Post

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  3. You MUST have managed the quiet sex back when you were covering the Sex at the Parents one. :-/

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