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100+ Sexual Bucket List Ideas


A couple posts ago, we went over an Introduction to Sexual Bucket Lists. How to make one, what to include and what it should look like. Today, I’d like to give you over 100 ideas of things to add to your own bucket list. If you have more ideas you think should be added to this list, please leave your comments below.

NOTE: When “Have Sex” is used, it’s not necessarily sexual intercourse. You could choose to have oral sex, non-penetration sex, or any of the other definitions of sex that you can think of. Remember from the Intro to Sexual Bucket Lists that what you put on your list is entirely up to you, so be sure to put what you want, not just the idea listed here.

Ways to Have Sex

  1. Have a male, female, male (MFM, MMF) threesome
  2. Have a female, male, female (FMF, FFM) threesome
  3. Have sex with 4 or more people
  4. Have sex with a person of the same gender
  5. Have sex with another person, while your partner watches
  6. Watch your partner have sex with another person
  7. Have sex with your partner, while someone else watches
  8. Have anal sex
  9. Have very rough sex
  10. Have very gentle sex
  11. Have sex without foreplay
  12. Have sex standing up
  13. Have sex kneeling
  14. Have sex facing away from your partner
  15. Have sex facing sideways
  16. Have sex with most of your clothes on
  17. Have sex with one article of clothing on
  18. Have sex without kissing
  19. Have extremely quiet sex
  20. Have extremely loud sex
  21. Have sex with a stranger
  22. Have sex without orgasm
  23. Get your hair pulled during sex
  24. Have sex in an awkward/advanced position
  25. Change positions multiple times during sex

Places to Have Sex

  1. Have sex and videotape or webcam it
  2. Masturbate and videotape or webcam it
  3. Have an orgasm in front of people without them knowing
  4. Have sex in public
  5. Have sex at a movie theater
  6. Have sex in a car
  7. Have sex at a drive-thru
  8. Have sex in a bathroom at a night club
  9. Have sex on a balcony or porch
  10. Have sex on an airplane
  11. Have sex on public transit, including buses and taxi cabs
  12. Have sex in the shower
  13. Have sex on the kitchen counter/table
  14. Have sex at work
  15. Have sex in the woods
  16. Have sex at a concert
  17. Have sex for an audience
  18. Have sex in the snow
  19. Have sex on a beach
  20. Have sex in the bed of a pick up truck
  21. Have sex in an elevator
  22. Have cybersex
  23. Have sex in a church
  24. Have sex on a building’s roof
  25. Have sex in your parent’s house

Equipment to Use

  1. Find your favorite vibrator
  2. Discover a brand new dildo that you love
  3. Get some Ben Wa Balls and use them
  4. Get a Kegel Exerciser and use it
  5. Use a Strap-On
  6. Use Anal Beads
  7. Buy some lingerie
  8. Wear a cock ring
  9. Wear some lace, leather or latex
  10. Use a Butt Plug
  11. Wear wrist and/or ankle cuffs
  12. Get a blindfold on
  13. Wear a chastity device
  14. Get a corset
  15. Wear nipple clamps
  16. Purchase a mask or hood
  17. Use play piercing needles
  18. Use a flogger, whip or cane
  19. Buy bondage tape or medical tape
  20. Get a sexy pair of shoes or boots
  21. Use household items as kinky toys
  22. Wear spreader bars
  23. Use furniture specifically designed for sex
  24. Use an unconventional sex toy, such as an ice dildo
  25. Use a fucking machine

Learn Something New

  1. Become familiar with your genitals
  2. Go to the strippers
  3. Go to the strippers on amateur night and perform
  4. Watch porn with your partner
  5. Learn how to belly dance
  6. Take a pole dancing class
  7. Attend a munch
  8. Attend a play party
  9. Attend a sex-related workshop
  10. Attend a sex-related class
  11. Attend a sex-related conference, such as The Taboo Naughty but Nice Show
  12. Read more erotic stories
  13. Read more sex-related blogs
  14. Get an informative sex-related book
  15. Blog/write about your own sexuality
  16. Learn about the Kama Sutra
  17. Get erotic photographs taken of yourself
  18. Show your partner an erotic dance, or have them do one for you
  19. Learn how to have great oral sex
  20. Learn how to give an erotic massage
  21. Learn how to squirt
  22. Subscribe to an erotic magazine
  23. Trim or shave your pubic hair
  24. Discover the art of rope bondage
  25. Role Play

Kinky Fucky Time

  1. Have your genitals worshipped
  2. Have your genitals tortured
  3. Play with a violet wand or TENS unit
  4. Wear a gag
  5. Be put in a cage or confined
  6. Be humiliated or humiliate someone else
  7. Have your breasts whipped
  8. Experience sensory deprivation
  9. Have consensual non-consensual sex (rape play)
  10. Have marks left over the next day

Conversation Starters

  • How many of these things have you experienced yourself?
  • Which ones were already on your bucket list? Which ones are you now planning to add?
  • What are some other ideas for a sexual bucket list?

Author: Valerie Rayne

Valerie Rayne is a wannabe kinkster, blog-a-holic and mom of six ranting about life, love and blogging. She is also the creator of WTMFI Wednesdays, a weekly sex meme arousing discussions on sexuality.

18 thoughts on “100+ Sexual Bucket List Ideas

  1. The sad thing (or good depending how you look at it) is that I did about 75% of the things listed before I was 19. However I think as I do some for the things now I have a better appreciation for them.
    Great list though.

    ~Jess XX~

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  9. I did about 95% of the list already with my fiance, I’m eightteen.

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  11. Reblogged this on mastererotica60 and commented:
    I’ve been lucky enough to fill must of my bucket list. How about you!?

    • Thanks so much for the reblog and sadly, no I’m not even close to filling most of my bucket list – except with useless hopes and dreams… But, I’m sometimes okay with that, because I’m still pretty young.

  12. Hi Valerie, this is a great list, thanks for sharing. We have just released a new app to share with your readers, that contains just about all of your list. My Sex Quest on android. Plus the premium version allows couples to share their Hard Limits, their favourites and add to their list also. We hope you enjoy.

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  14. Make a sex tape with your partner and leak it

  15. I like writing and drawing, I love challenges and together with the miss I love sex… We have a list, although quite vanilla… The reason for my comment is this; have you written any dares, and sex challenges? Anything like the app Desire? (used to be desire42) and Android I phone game between two lovers. You write dares or use written ones for others and dare your partner… Works great if you are a comparative couple. I have to admit I have written (and done) dares that did come from your posts, rants, dreams, happenings, pics, limericks and stories. Keep up the writing, you and the boyfriend are great to follow. Greatings from New Zealand.

    • I don’t think I’ve ever written any dares or sex challenges – although I could see it being a fun way to test limits.

      I will have to check out the apps you’ve mentioned, as I’ve never heard of them before, but I’m usually always a fan of anything that opens up communication and offers up opportunities for connections.

      I have to admit that I’m wildly curious about these “written (and done) dares” inspired by my writing and pictures. We both literally “Awww”-ed out lout to this!

      And man oh man, New Zealand!!! I think this is the first time I’ve ever spoken to someone from there. Greetings from Canada and thanks so much for following us.

      Loved this comment 😉

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